Big Boobs or Bust?
I’ve never cared about body issues. I never had the chance. I grew up in a community where I was four inches taller than the average girl. This was in the sixth grade and I never grew out of it. They had beautiful brown eyes, long thick straight hair, and dance moves that I was just not built to duplicate.
I was a shoe size 9 in the third grade. I was 5’6 by the seventh grade. And again, I grew up in a place where I exceeded the average height of men and women for a lifetime. Body image was never going to be my concern; I focused on my strengths, but I just didn’t know what they were yet.
Fast forward: At age 29, I got my career together and I was ready to take charge. At this point in my life
, I had ranged from being a size 14 to 2. I’ve worn a 34 D all throughout high school and undergrad; now, not so much. After nursing two children, my 34 D turned into a 32 WHAAAAT!? I felt imbalanced, and yet, in a current size 2, the least attractive physically I had ever experienced.
Knowing your body and strengths are the best assets for physical confidence. On average, my late teens through pre-baby early 20’s looked to be about a size 10 on great days, size 12 on those beer drinking enchilada days. Not being body conscious, I never new my cheeks were round and my boobs were average looking, considering my body frame supported them.
If I had only known what the beauty of a flat stomach and boobs without stretch marks looked like on me, I may have been more excited about that size 10 body. All I knew was school and stress release.
My first pregnancy is what taught me that size of waist and breasts are not what we should hold accountable. After delivery (yes, she was born almost at 9 lbs), I weighed in at 218 lbs. Giant boobs that no nursing bra could hold; but oh my, all that came with them! About 7 months later, and $2500 dollars in boot camp conditioning, I lowered that weight down to 175 lbs. I was probably in the best muscular shape of my life, and then about six weeks later, I found out baby number two was on her way.
Here is how to overcome the BS of numbers on a scale, and really embrace the body you walk in.
Look at what you have earned
Busting your ass at the gym versus busting your ass giving labor are not comparing apples and oranges. Yet, neither are excuses for what you have worked toward. Earning your body means going through growing pains, stress, and achievements. Lifting weights and sharing your body to produce another human are both great achievements. It cannot be compared. Your body is a product of what you do to take care of it. Sometimes that means creating life, creating demons and coping strategies, and sometimes just focusing energy on other pieces of you.
See beyond the dimples
When I was little, I would grasp out to my mother’s thighs. You have to know, she is only 20 years older than I, and she has never missed a beat in winning over hearts and smiles in my potentials. She is and has always been the most beautiful woman I’ve known. But- she has dimples. Yes, dimples in her cheeks when she smiles, dimples in her icing when she makes her cakes, and dimples in her thighs because, well, she’s human. I’ve been to boat parties with the 20 something’s and this is what I’ve learned: My dimples in my stomach from having two girls have never once stopped anyone who is worth it from finding me to be attractive or amazing based on good reason. Dimples are dimples. Truth be told.
Love your wits that your skin wraps around
I can argue different perspectives. Big boobs gain some attention; a lot actually. Great partnerships, friendships, business colleagues, and anyone worth sharing time with- they get beyond the boobs. Yes! Big Boobs are a BUST!! Whether you have them or not, the real attention for long term genuine people is based on what you say and what you know. Plain and simple. Every person who is attracted to you will have their preferences. Boobs, Butt, Brains, and Brutality (I add this because I’m intolerant of smart ass people with bad pick up lines). Be You. The best counterpart will see you as they should… size 1 or 24… boob bust or not.
